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As a trans woman, how to have a date?

To be honest, I never liked dating. For me, dating is something like this, sitting in the coffee shop or bar and waiting for someone nervously. It’s like an adventure, because you don’t know what’s your date look like, what’s his character like, and almost everything about him.
When meet each other, you may start to have a conversation, and both want to make a good impression through the conversation. That’s sounds idiotic, but many people are happy to do so, including myself. I start to do so, because it’s really the best way to meet different people and have a relationship with other people, especially for trans women. As a trans woman, people often ask me questions like “what is dating in your eyes?” I’m very happy to share my experience with you here.
Attracted by trans women doesn’t mean they are gay.
I’ve told my transgender friends before, I wouldn’t date with gay. As I know, gay men are often attracted by men. I’ve spend a lot to remove my hair and make me look like a woman, and why gay men are attracted by women? If you are a gay before and in transition to a woman now, you should realize that gay men can not be your date in the future. Some self-identified gay may still swim in the bisexual pool, but it’s a great shame.
Another thing I want to mention is that attraction to trans women can never make a man become a gay. Not every men know about this, sometimes you may need to explain it to men. I met a man in a bar 1 week ago, he asked me about this question, my answer is”no, your attraction to trans women doesn’t mean you are a gay.” As I mentioned before, every men can be the target of trans women.
Men like you but not respect you.
This is the common question of all women and trans women. Most men like women who are forever slim, beautiful and young, this kind of women only live in their imagination. I’m chatting with a man on the trans dating app when I’m sweeping the floor or cleaning my room. I’m not a Victoria’s Secret model, and I will never please a man by giving a sexy posture.
It’s also very important to know if the man is willing to meet you in public places. Some men would not even acknowledge that they like trans women in public.
As a trans woman, you need to respect yourself firstly, then you may be respected by other people.
Ways of dating.
Dating is a matter of personal preference. Many girls choose a trans dating app and disclose their personal information(I’m a trans woman). Of course, I will tell my date about who I am before dating. It’s a great chance to know whether he is willing to date a trans woman.
Another way is to the ‘trans’ filter on trans dating apps. This is a way to ensure the man who chat with you is looking for trans women or the admirer of trans women.

Places where you can find transgender easily to date

Finding a transgender and date with them is not an easy. There are very limited sources where you can find transgender people. Not everyone is quite comfortable to talk about the topic to date with a transgender or T people. When you are obsessed to date with a transgender, you need to know where you can easily find them and pick them up for date. The main question is, how you can find a transgender who is also interesting in you and quite positive to date with you also. You cannot see these guys or girls in grocery store, in your work place or any other random place. So, what next? How can you fulfill your desire to date with a transgender? Here are the three best and most popular places for transgender.

Online transgender dating websites – Online dating is quite popular these days and most of us already tried online dating. There are many things that you need to know before going online to find a transgender date for you. If you are not very social or party animal, also feeling shy to express your feeling in public areas than surely online dating sites are quite the best place for you to find a transgender date. You only need to find the best transgender dating website in web and create your profile. This is the best platform where you can see many profiles of transgender. Check the profile that matches to your requirements what exactly you are looking in your date. Once you find a transgender, it is quite best to ask everything about your requirements that you want from your date and what you are thinking about dating a transgender.

GLBTQ support centers – gay, lesbian, bi-sexual, transgender and queer support center is the 2nd best place to find a transgender in your area. You can find an amazing atmosphere and quite open for anyone. It is believed that all GLBTQ community refers these support centers a second home. However these support centers organize special meeting and events so that each and everyone may know each other. These support centers are quite the best place to meet transgender, however this place isn’t meant for dating but you can make contacts here in these support centers that leads to friendship and long term relationships.

If you didn’t find or know any GLBTQ support center in your area, take a help from Google or other search engine. You can easily know where these support centers located in your area.

Gay bars and Clubs: If you are a party animal and love to go out in clubs and bars. Definitely, gay bars and clubs are quite the best place for you to find a transgender date. These clubs and bars always dedicated to transgender community and you can easily find the one in these clubs or bars to whom you can date with. But you need to take a membership of these special clubs or bars or might take participation in events also.

Hope, these tips will definitely help you to find a transgender date for you.

Tips to date a Transgender

Dating a transgender is quite not easy and you need to be very sure about what you are saying and how you are behaving with your date. However, transgender are more obsessed with their identity and always paying some extra attentions about their looks and behavior, so that they behave like other girls. Dating is quite common these days but date with special one is quite not easy and you need to know some special skills and tips to go out with these special ones like – LGBTQ (Lesbian, Gay, Bi-sexual, transgender or Queer). Here are few things that you must take care while dating with a transgender.

Tips to date a Transgender:

Stop making any assumptions: You know you are dating with a transgender. So it’s not good if you repeatedly remind her that she is not a real girl or having gender or sexuality issues.  If you are doing this and making fun of this continuously than definitely you would ruined your date and the moment you spend with her.

Select a safe place to date or discussion: If you are dating with a transgender and going to meet her in public place. Choose the place wisely before going out with your transgender partner. You need to be very careful in selecting or finalize any place to meet. Place must have a comfortable environment for transgender so that your partner might not feel awkward in front of other people. Select a public place instead of hotel room or your residence if you are going out for your first date with transgender. You must take care the public place is quite open and comfortable for all communities and no one raise any objection or create disturbance in between your date.

Give respect – No matter what you think about her or you are looking for long term relationship or only for one night fun. You have to pay some respect her and adore her choice. Yes, she is transgender but it doesn’t mean that you will call her – Shemale or ladyboy. That is rude and clearly disrespectful to her.

Never harass her by saying anything inappropriate. Transgender girls are not too different with other girls. They want the same as other girls or women want from their partner. They want you to love and pamper them gently and never insulted them by calling her Shemale or ladyboy. These are the terms basically used in porn movies and she is not a porn actress and you are not making movie with her.

Few men thinks that transgender date is quite easy and they can find a transgender women at any time without making much efforts and take her out for a date. But it’s quite not correct. Transgender women are not very easy to pick and if you are not her cup of tea, they won’t go out with you. No matter how good looking you are?

So, every transgender girl or women comes with her own choice and requirement in terms of dating. You must respect and adore her.